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Men, stop worrying about whether women know you're a safe person to be around and start making sure men know you're not a safe person to be misogynist around.

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Actual exchange that happened during my first marriage:

Brother In Law: [tells a racist "joke"]
Me: not cool. you won't say racist shit around me.
BIL: or what?
Me: or I won't be around you.
BIL: it wasn't even racist
Me: yes it was. you won't do it around me.
BIL: whatever. (under breath) bitch.

Later, at Thanksgiving dinner:
BIL: [tells a second racist "joke" at the dinner table]
Me: [gets up and gets my keys and prepares to leave]
Mother in Law: where's she going??
Husband: I don't know. Lana, where are you going?
Me: I'm leaving.
MIL: why??
Me: ask your son.

Then I left. Later that evening I got an apology from BIL, and a promise to not say racist shit, at least around me. He tested it a second time, at a different family get together. I got up and started for my car. I got an immediate apology from him for his behavior.

Look, it's not a lot. But it's a start. Stick to your guns, folks, particularly around the holidays. Hold them accountable for their racist words and actions. Deplatforming racists works.

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If it sounds like the composer might be a vampire, it's Bach.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to set the violins on fire, it's Vivaldi.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to sell you fancy mustard, it's Haydn

If it sounds like the composer is making fun of you, it's Mozart.

If it sounds like your high school graduation, it's Elgar.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to make you as deaf as he is, it's Beethoven.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to shoot you, it's Tchaikovsky.

If it sounds like the composer is mansplaining to you, it's Wagner.

If it sounds like you bought Star Wars on Temu, it's Holst.

If it sounds like a fancy costume party with rich old people dancing, it's Strauss.

If it sounds like an angry costume party with rich old people trying to kill each other, it's Brahms.

If it sounds like it's ripping off Celene Dion, it's Rachmaninoff.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to incite a riot, it's Stravinsky.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano, it’s Liszt.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano and all of them are clinically depressed, it's Chopin.

If it sounds like every single choir kid in the entire city is on stage at the same time, it's Mahler.

If it sounds like the composer tried to make a piano out of feathers, it's Debussy.

If it sounds like it's in the shape of a pear don't make me laugh sea foam you're tickling me, it's Satie.

If it sounds like two marching bands playing different songs meeting at the 0 yard line, it's Ives.

If it sounds like it's very urgent that you do something IMMEDIATELY but you don't know what, it's Orff.

If it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds like this, it's Glass.

If it sounds like someone spilled all the notes and now they're all coming out in a random order, it's Schönberg.

If it sounds like , it's Cage.

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If it sounds like the composer might be a vampire, it's Bach.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to set the violins on fire, it's Vivaldi.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to sell you fancy mustard, it's Haydn

If it sounds like the composer is making fun of you, it's Mozart.

If it sounds like your high school graduation, it's Elgar.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to make you as deaf as he is, it's Beethoven.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to shoot you, it's Tchaikovsky.

If it sounds like the composer is mansplaining to you, it's Wagner.

If it sounds like you bought Star Wars on Temu, it's Holst.

If it sounds like a fancy costume party with rich old people dancing, it's Strauss.

If it sounds like an angry costume party with rich old people trying to kill each other, it's Brahms.

If it sounds like it's ripping off Celene Dion, it's Rachmaninoff.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to incite a riot, it's Stravinsky.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano, it’s Liszt.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano and all of them are clinically depressed, it's Chopin.

If it sounds like every single choir kid in the entire city is on stage at the same time, it's Mahler.

If it sounds like the composer tried to make a piano out of feathers, it's Debussy.

If it sounds like it's in the shape of a pear don't make me laugh sea foam you're tickling me, it's Satie.

If it sounds like two marching bands playing different songs meeting at the 0 yard line, it's Ives.

If it sounds like it's very urgent that you do something IMMEDIATELY but you don't know what, it's Orff.

If it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds like this, it's Glass.

If it sounds like someone spilled all the notes and now they're all coming out in a random order, it's Schönberg.

If it sounds like , it's Cage.

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30 Second Music History:

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If it sounds like the composer might be a vampire, it's Bach.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to set the violins on fire, it's Vivaldi.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to sell you fancy mustard, it's Haydn

If it sounds like the composer is making fun of you, it's Mozart.

If it sounds like your high school graduation, it's Elgar.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to make you as deaf as he is, it's Beethoven.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to shoot you, it's Tchaikovsky.

If it sounds like the composer is mansplaining to you, it's Wagner.

If it sounds like you bought Star Wars on Temu, it's Holst.

If it sounds like a fancy costume party with rich old people dancing, it's Strauss.

If it sounds like an angry costume party with rich old people trying to kill each other, it's Brahms.

If it sounds like it's ripping off Celene Dion, it's Rachmaninoff.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to incite a riot, it's Stravinsky.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano, it’s Liszt.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano and all of them are clinically depressed, it's Chopin.

If it sounds like every single choir kid in the entire city is on stage at the same time, it's Mahler.

If it sounds like the composer tried to make a piano out of feathers, it's Debussy.

If it sounds like it's in the shape of a pear don't make me laugh sea foam you're tickling me, it's Satie.

If it sounds like two marching bands playing different songs meeting at the 0 yard line, it's Ives.

If it sounds like it's very urgent that you do something IMMEDIATELY but you don't know what, it's Orff.

If it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds like this, it's Glass.

If it sounds like someone spilled all the notes and now they're all coming out in a random order, it's Schönberg.

If it sounds like , it's Cage.

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30 Second Music History:

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If it sounds like the composer might be a vampire, it's Bach.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to set the violins on fire, it's Vivaldi.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to sell you fancy mustard, it's Haydn

If it sounds like the composer is making fun of you, it's Mozart.

If it sounds like your high school graduation, it's Elgar.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to make you as deaf as he is, it's Beethoven.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to shoot you, it's Tchaikovsky.

If it sounds like the composer is mansplaining to you, it's Wagner.

If it sounds like you bought Star Wars on Temu, it's Holst.

If it sounds like a fancy costume party with rich old people dancing, it's Strauss.

If it sounds like an angry costume party with rich old people trying to kill each other, it's Brahms.

If it sounds like it's ripping off Celene Dion, it's Rachmaninoff.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to incite a riot, it's Stravinsky.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano, it’s Liszt.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano and all of them are clinically depressed, it's Chopin.

If it sounds like every single choir kid in the entire city is on stage at the same time, it's Mahler.

If it sounds like the composer tried to make a piano out of feathers, it's Debussy.

If it sounds like it's in the shape of a pear don't make me laugh sea foam you're tickling me, it's Satie.

If it sounds like two marching bands playing different songs meeting at the 0 yard line, it's Ives.

If it sounds like it's very urgent that you do something IMMEDIATELY but you don't know what, it's Orff.

If it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds like this, it's Glass.

If it sounds like someone spilled all the notes and now they're all coming out in a random order, it's Schönberg.

If it sounds like , it's Cage.

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30 Second Music History:

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If it sounds like the composer might be a vampire, it's Bach.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to set the violins on fire, it's Vivaldi.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to sell you fancy mustard, it's Haydn

If it sounds like the composer is making fun of you, it's Mozart.

If it sounds like your high school graduation, it's Elgar.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to make you as deaf as he is, it's Beethoven.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to shoot you, it's Tchaikovsky.

If it sounds like the composer is mansplaining to you, it's Wagner.

If it sounds like you bought Star Wars on Temu, it's Holst.

If it sounds like a fancy costume party with rich old people dancing, it's Strauss.

If it sounds like an angry costume party with rich old people trying to kill each other, it's Brahms.

If it sounds like it's ripping off Celene Dion, it's Rachmaninoff.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to incite a riot, it's Stravinsky.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano, it’s Liszt.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano and all of them are clinically depressed, it's Chopin.

If it sounds like every single choir kid in the entire city is on stage at the same time, it's Mahler.

If it sounds like the composer tried to make a piano out of feathers, it's Debussy.

If it sounds like it's in the shape of a pear don't make me laugh sea foam you're tickling me, it's Satie.

If it sounds like two marching bands playing different songs meeting at the 0 yard line, it's Ives.

If it sounds like it's very urgent that you do something IMMEDIATELY but you don't know what, it's Orff.

If it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds like this, it's Glass.

If it sounds like someone spilled all the notes and now they're all coming out in a random order, it's Schönberg.

If it sounds like , it's Cage.

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30 Second Music History:

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If it sounds like the composer might be a vampire, it's Bach.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to set the violins on fire, it's Vivaldi.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to sell you fancy mustard, it's Haydn

If it sounds like the composer is making fun of you, it's Mozart.

If it sounds like your high school graduation, it's Elgar.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to make you as deaf as he is, it's Beethoven.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to shoot you, it's Tchaikovsky.

If it sounds like the composer is mansplaining to you, it's Wagner.

If it sounds like you bought Star Wars on Temu, it's Holst.

If it sounds like a fancy costume party with rich old people dancing, it's Strauss.

If it sounds like an angry costume party with rich old people trying to kill each other, it's Brahms.

If it sounds like it's ripping off Celene Dion, it's Rachmaninoff.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to incite a riot, it's Stravinsky.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano, it’s Liszt.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano and all of them are clinically depressed, it's Chopin.

If it sounds like every single choir kid in the entire city is on stage at the same time, it's Mahler.

If it sounds like the composer tried to make a piano out of feathers, it's Debussy.

If it sounds like it's in the shape of a pear don't make me laugh sea foam you're tickling me, it's Satie.

If it sounds like two marching bands playing different songs meeting at the 0 yard line, it's Ives.

If it sounds like it's very urgent that you do something IMMEDIATELY but you don't know what, it's Orff.

If it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds like this, it's Glass.

If it sounds like someone spilled all the notes and now they're all coming out in a random order, it's Schönberg.

If it sounds like , it's Cage.

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30 Second Music History:

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If it sounds like the composer might be a vampire, it's Bach.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to set the violins on fire, it's Vivaldi.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to sell you fancy mustard, it's Haydn

If it sounds like the composer is making fun of you, it's Mozart.

If it sounds like your high school graduation, it's Elgar.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to make you as deaf as he is, it's Beethoven.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to shoot you, it's Tchaikovsky.

If it sounds like the composer is mansplaining to you, it's Wagner.

If it sounds like you bought Star Wars on Temu, it's Holst.

If it sounds like a fancy costume party with rich old people dancing, it's Strauss.

If it sounds like an angry costume party with rich old people trying to kill each other, it's Brahms.

If it sounds like it's ripping off Celene Dion, it's Rachmaninoff.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to incite a riot, it's Stravinsky.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano, it’s Liszt.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano and all of them are clinically depressed, it's Chopin.

If it sounds like every single choir kid in the entire city is on stage at the same time, it's Mahler.

If it sounds like the composer tried to make a piano out of feathers, it's Debussy.

If it sounds like it's in the shape of a pear don't make me laugh sea foam you're tickling me, it's Satie.

If it sounds like two marching bands playing different songs meeting at the 0 yard line, it's Ives.

If it sounds like it's very urgent that you do something IMMEDIATELY but you don't know what, it's Orff.

If it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds like this, it's Glass.

If it sounds like someone spilled all the notes and now they're all coming out in a random order, it's Schönberg.

If it sounds like , it's Cage.

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30 Second Music History:

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If it sounds like the composer might be a vampire, it's Bach.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to set the violins on fire, it's Vivaldi.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to sell you fancy mustard, it's Haydn

If it sounds like the composer is making fun of you, it's Mozart.

If it sounds like your high school graduation, it's Elgar.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to make you as deaf as he is, it's Beethoven.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to shoot you, it's Tchaikovsky.

If it sounds like the composer is mansplaining to you, it's Wagner.

If it sounds like you bought Star Wars on Temu, it's Holst.

If it sounds like a fancy costume party with rich old people dancing, it's Strauss.

If it sounds like an angry costume party with rich old people trying to kill each other, it's Brahms.

If it sounds like it's ripping off Celene Dion, it's Rachmaninoff.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to incite a riot, it's Stravinsky.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano, it’s Liszt.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano and all of them are clinically depressed, it's Chopin.

If it sounds like every single choir kid in the entire city is on stage at the same time, it's Mahler.

If it sounds like the composer tried to make a piano out of feathers, it's Debussy.

If it sounds like it's in the shape of a pear don't make me laugh sea foam you're tickling me, it's Satie.

If it sounds like two marching bands playing different songs meeting at the 0 yard line, it's Ives.

If it sounds like it's very urgent that you do something IMMEDIATELY but you don't know what, it's Orff.

If it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds like this, it's Glass.

If it sounds like someone spilled all the notes and now they're all coming out in a random order, it's Schönberg.

If it sounds like , it's Cage.

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30 Second Music History:

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If it sounds like the composer might be a vampire, it's Bach.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to set the violins on fire, it's Vivaldi.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to sell you fancy mustard, it's Haydn

If it sounds like the composer is making fun of you, it's Mozart.

If it sounds like your high school graduation, it's Elgar.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to make you as deaf as he is, it's Beethoven.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to shoot you, it's Tchaikovsky.

If it sounds like the composer is mansplaining to you, it's Wagner.

If it sounds like you bought Star Wars on Temu, it's Holst.

If it sounds like a fancy costume party with rich old people dancing, it's Strauss.

If it sounds like an angry costume party with rich old people trying to kill each other, it's Brahms.

If it sounds like it's ripping off Celene Dion, it's Rachmaninoff.

If it sounds like the composer is trying to incite a riot, it's Stravinsky.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano, it’s Liszt.

If it sounds like there's 10 hands playing a single piano and all of them are clinically depressed, it's Chopin.

If it sounds like every single choir kid in the entire city is on stage at the same time, it's Mahler.

If it sounds like the composer tried to make a piano out of feathers, it's Debussy.

If it sounds like it's in the shape of a pear don't make me laugh sea foam you're tickling me, it's Satie.

If it sounds like two marching bands playing different songs meeting at the 0 yard line, it's Ives.

If it sounds like it's very urgent that you do something IMMEDIATELY but you don't know what, it's Orff.

If it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds if it sounds like this, it's Glass.

If it sounds like someone spilled all the notes and now they're all coming out in a random order, it's Schönberg.

If it sounds like , it's Cage.

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In a tiny shtetl in rural Ukraine, some time in the 1800's, a young man set out on a journey to Odessa to become a man.

Berel was born, and lived most of his life in Krivozer, Ukraine. Assigned female at birth and given the name "Beyel", Berel was a tall, sturdily-built redheaded child, who clomped about town with heavy steps, affected a deliberately deep, bass voice, and sold herring, geese, and other foodstuffs to the working men of the town. His neighbors reportedly knew something was different about him from a very young age, saying that he "always brought forth an uncertain feeling: something like, [he’s] not quite a woman, but also not quite a man.”

Berel's father sought guidance in the only place he knew - his religion. The Talmud includes no less than eight gender categories, and preaches the notion that we are all made in God’s image. Teaching after teaching emphasizes the importance of life and bodily autonomy. So, he took this unusual child of his to rabbi after rabbi, seeking spiritual guidance and help. Over and over, the spiritual leaders told him the same thing - "God will help. God will help."

And God did help. In the form of an unnamed but “important” professor from Odessa, a journey of more than two days on foot. So, when Berel was 23, with his father's blessing, he crossed the little footbridge connecting his shtetl to the main road and set off north for Odessa. Leaving behind everything he ever knew - his father, his girlfriend, his livelihood - all on the thin thread of hope that somehow, some way, this professor could help.

Yeshaye Katovski, a Jewish-Ukranian immigrant living in Brooklyn in the 1930s told the story of Beryl's return in a letter to the editor of the Jewish Forward:

"...And on the day when Beyle was to arrive, half the shtetl ran to the bridge to greet her, or better said, to greet him. And she wasn’t called Beyle anymore: Now she was Berel. And when we saw ‘her,’ it was as if we were stunned: Before our eyes was a handsome, healthy, redheaded man. Anyone who didn’t know Beyle previously would never have known that he had been a girl. From then on in the shtetl, ‘she’ was called Berel-Beyle.”

The men of Beryl's shtetl immediately welcomed him into their social circles. They taught him to daven (or pray), and Beryl attended synagogue every day. And later, Beryl married his girlfriend from before his transition, whom Katovski notes was “a nice girl", with the full blessing of his rabbi, his synagogue, and his neighbors.

Beryl, was a man who was beloved by his town, his church, and his God. He lived a quiet, uneventful life on the far side of a small footbridge in rural Ukraine. He loved his wife. He attended synagogue. And, one day, presumably, he died, and was mourned by those who knew him.

Sometimes our stories are simple ones like this. No flashy inventions or daring wartime escapes. No tragic tales of star-crossed lovers. No court dramas. No political intrigue. Just a simple coming of age story of the love between a father and his boy, and the man he would become.

Tell our stories.

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1990 Internet: You gotta be a hacker to find anything on the web

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